I’ve also found that people love offering up their own “pregnancy advice”.
- Don’t go shopping for anything until after the baby shower.
- Don’t buy maternity clothes until you’re further along.
- Don’t use the internet to look up your questions, ask the doctor instead.
These are all pieces of advice I’ve heard multiple times, and what did I do? Not listen of course!
That's why I feel that I should share my experience and talk about it: Keep calm, and don't become a shopaholic! The first and truest piece of advice I wish I’d listened to was not to go shopping until after the baby shower. Thanks to my excitement and shopaholic nature, my baby has now ended up with more 0-3 month onesies than I can fit in his dresser. Every time I saw a cute clothing set, I insisted that I buy it. Every time I saw a cute blanket, I insisted that I buy it. Every time I saw a great deal, well of course-I insisted that I buy it.
Well, what do you know, come baby shower time, I was showered with all of the above. From onesies to diapers to pacifiers to blankets, I received it all. Now, my nursery is overfilling with generosity and I find myself wishing I had simply held off on buying, and waited to see what I received! Be careful with Maternity Clothes Don’t buy maternity clothes until your further along is definitely another piece of advice that I wish I had taken more seriously. I’ve found maternity clothes to be much more expensive than normal clothes, and if I’d listened, I’d probably have a lot more money and a lot less unusable clothes. My problem was, around 4 or 5 months pregnant, I thought I was huge! I decided right then and there and there was no way I could wear any of my clothes any longer and that I needed some maternity clothes. Boy oh boy was I wrong. At 9 months, I look back at my 4 or 5-month self and laugh. The reality is, I probably could have fit in most of my clothes for another couple months, had I gotten creative with my outfits. Of all of the maternity clothes that I bought earlier on in my pregnancy, I now have two shirts that fit me. Even maternity clothes that I bought a month ago are now tight and a little small on me. What have I learned? Hold off on buying maternity clothes as long as you possibly can and when you do buy them, buy them big! Listen to your doctor! Lastly, don’t use the internet to look up your questions, ask the doctor. I heard this several times, and every time I chose not to listen, I certainly regretted it. The problem with the internet is that the internet does not care about your overly emotional pregnant feelings. Each time I had a question and would look it up on the internet, I would find forum after forum of women talking about the same questions that I had. At first, I thought it was great...until I realized that every pregnant woman’s experience was not the walk in the park that you hope pregnancy will be. Each and every time, I would come across horror stories that would keep me up at night. For days I would worry about the health and well being of the baby--that is, until I would go to the doctor, ask her my same questions, and be reassured that the horror stories I was hearing were incredibly rare cases that were incredibly unlikely to ever happen to me. I can’t tell you how many times the doctor lectured me on not using internet forums for advice. Finally, I have learned. When I have a question, I ask the doctor and needless to say, I’ve been much more relaxed ever since. Everyone likes to give advice, and everyone is also much less likely to take it. That's how humans are.. we want to try things for ourselves.
" Learning the hard way is certainly not the easiest way, and is definitely not the cheapest way."During this pregnancy, I’ve found that advice from people that you trust, and people that have been there and done that, is usually good advice. While I have had to use my own judgment at times, there are also many times that I wish I had listened to those that have already been down my road. While being pregnant may send a lot of attention your way, it also sends a lot of advice... advice that both you and your bank account will be happy you listened to!